Budget Ringkas Majlis Pertunangan

aku nak share belanjawan yg telah aku belanjakan untuk Majlis Pertunangan hari tu.walaupun rasa macam dah kedekut and cheapskate habis dah, RM1k ++ gak la aku habis sedikit demi sedikit.hehe.

Bersedialah adik2, kahwin dan step2 nak menuju perkahwinan memang banyak pakai duit.heee

Baju - RM300 (Upah & Fabrik)
Panjang kisah baju tunang aku ni. Lace yg sebenar2nya aku beli untuk tunang adalah lace lain.disebabkan kawan2 cakap tak lawa,so lace tu masih tersimpan rapi lagi sekarang.
Lace silver/grey tu sebenarnya aku pesan kat Ada masa dia pi Jakarta dulu.aku suruh dia beli lace yg semeter beberapa ringgit tu untuk buat baju saja2.rasanya tak sampai RM10 pun lace tu.lepas tu aku beli kain satin untuk dibuat lining and also chiffon untuk nak buat kain kembang tu dlm RM40-50, lebih kurang la.Upah RM250.agak mahal sebab kena tambah kain.tapi takpe, nasib baik cantik :)
kasut, aku pinjam heels Ada je.kebetulan colour kelabu.

don't you just love the flowy skirt?rasa mcm princess hehe

Tudung - RM130 
(Jangan tanya nanti aku sentap sebab beli tudung sampai 100 lebih)
I actually bought a syria and tudung sarung yg ada awning from Hajra, tudung syria tu ada beads cost me RM100 and dia punya inner tu RM30.jangan tanya kenapa aku beli such tudung.haha.I was so desperate sebab that was the only weekend that I have to finalised all the preparations.so aku ambik je apa yg Ada & Ain (merangkap wedding planner aku) kata lawa.
and yes,aku tak pakai pun tudung tu.last minute, aku pergi jalan2 kat BJ Complex dengan budak2 ni,terjumpa shawl half moon colour kelabu yg tersangat la matching dengan baju aku berharga RM80. I was literally broke.betul2 pokai punya, lalu Ujie menghulurkan bantuan untuk menaja tudung dengan syarat cukai akan dikenakan bila anak dia keluar nanti.haha.yelah yelah.

close-up tudung yg dipakai.dipakaikan oleh MUA

Make-up - RM85
This was the favourite part of my event. Make-up service aku cuma berharga RM85.yes,aku berjaya jimat banyak kat sini.yg aku tanya semua more than RM150.nak pakai 3,4 jam je sampai RM150?tak kuasa aku.
tukang make-up aku adalah dua students USM yg buat part-time servis mekap for student dinner.aku jumpa through blogshop diorang kat FB.kalau dinner diorg charge RM30, yg aku ni sebab Engagement, mahal la sikit.but still murah compared dgn MUA yg aku survey.
barang2 mekap diorang biasa2 je.takde MAC,takde Bobbi Brown,tapi dia punya mekap tahan sampai malam.petang lepas majlis aku gi outdoor, then balik membuta, bangun tu mekap still terletak elok (I was on my menses by the way, sebab tu rasa sayang nak cuci mekap sampai malam hehe)
and everyone puji my make-up hari tu *sengih sampai telinga*
kalau korang dekat2 kawasan USM Penang tu,dan kawasan yg sewaktu dengannya boleh try la ambik servis dengan diorang ni Uniquestyle Muslimah & Palenstina Santana
I'm considering them for my solemnization make-up as well,kalau diorang available.senang,dekat pun dekat since aku bakal nikah kat Masjid USM je,and boleh wudhuk sebelum mekap sebab MUA aku adalah wanita :)

right after make-up.belum biasa dengan bulu mata pelesu lagi huhu

Goodies - RM150
actually mula2 dah niat nak buat, then Mother cakap tak payah pulak,last minute aku tergerak nak buat jugak sbb awal2 dah niat kan.
brown paperbags yg for goreng pisang tu RM3.20 per pack (100pcs),aku beli 2packs kat Mydin, that makes it 200.so aku beli Apollo,heart shaped chocolates and sweets Cloud9 tu, budget2 cukup untuk 200packs tu, total dalam RM80 gitu.beli kat kedai borong belakang hotel Grand Continental KL.
sticker Ada tolong buatkan kat booth kecil kat Times Square, 100psc stickers RM17.murah kan?walaupun simple.yg aku tanya online ada yg cecah RM170 for 300pcs.of course la design lagi canggih tapi untuk tunang ni aku tak sampai hati nak spend banyak begitu on goodies.
kalau ikut hati aku lagi la,aku nak print the so called tags atas A4, potong then lekat pakai gam je.

apollo and sweets

sticker

Pelamin - RM250
pelamin ni aku ambik kat butik kecik kat Permatang Sintok,Kepala Batas.dekat dengan rumah Tok.murah jugak la.yg aku tanya kat pulau,kalau tak over RM500 memang tak sah.so I opt to Seberang.dapat lah a decent simple pelamin for RM250, dengan syarat, transportation sendiri and pasang sendiri.nasib baiklah kereta family besaq, so transporternya adalah adikku Apiq dan setup pelamin beramai2 dengan Adik2, Abah, Mama dan isteri kawan2 Abah.design dalam gambar lain,disebabkan tukang setup creative, jadilah yg seperti yg dalam gambar di bawah.
pelamin ni just nice,just the way I imagine it'll be like.cukup lah,asal ada je.lagipun aku memang takmau buat pelamin grand2 nanti masa kahwin susah nak overcome.kang orang cakap, "eleh,pelamin tunang dia hari tu lagi grand".gituu uols.
ni pun sebab aku buat kat dewan/kawasan lapang.sebab macam tak manis pulak kalau takde tempat proper nak sarung cincin and bergambar.kalau kat rumah memang aku duduk kat penjuru katil je.

after dipasang malam sebelum majlis

this is how the dais looked like when I was sitting on it

Barang Hiasan Hantaran - dalam 150 
(yg selebihnya ditaja oleh Ain dan Ada)
dulang aku pinjam Ujie punya dulang nikah.so aku just kena beli segala bunga,riben dan hiasan2 mak nenek tu semua.barang2 tu (polisterin,riben,kertas kilat,dawai etc) semua aku beli kat Kedai Bunga Riben kat Plaza City One yg terletak di sebelah Semua House.total dalam RM70.bunga aku beli kat Jalan TAR.masa tu bulan puasa, so gerai2 jual bunga sangat banyak.aku beli 4 ikat bunga pink purple,2 ikat RM15,so 4 ikat total RM30. I have no idea nak pilih colour apa so aku pilih colour selamat untuk perempuan iaitu pink.same goes to my pelamin.
yg lain2 yg ditaja oleh Wedding Planners aku adalah tambahan bunga,span hijau, dan benda2 yg kecik2 yg aku terlepas pandang nak beli.thank you Ada & Ain :)

prototype hantaran

the real ones

Hand bouquet - Tak Sampai RM10
aku beli bunga kat Mydin Subang (they actually have variety of plastic flowers,nasib jauh je dengan aku), seikat dalam RM2-3 kot, tak ingat, aku beli 2 ikat,then balik2 je Ada dah gubah lilit2 dengan riben, tetiba TADAAAA dah jadi dah hand bouquet aku on the spot.

cantik kan? :)

Hantaran - Barang2 dalam dulang
Hantaran aku 7 balas 5.pihak aku bagi 
1) sirih junjung - tempah kat kedai barang pengantin somewhere in Bayan Lepas.RM30
2) kain nikah - pihak lelaki beli siap2,bagi aku letak je
3) biskut tambun - from Aunty Jacinta
4) ladoo - from Aunty Lata & Aunty Jaya
5) Halwa Betik - from Toklang
6) Asam2 & Buah-buahan kering - from Kak Yati jiran depan rumah
7) Buah-buahan - last minute Ada & Ain beli

Hantaran dari pihak lelaki 
1) Sirih Junjung
2) Cincin Tunang (beli/tempah kat Hana Gold) 
3) Kain nikah - kain aku beli kat Bandung hari tu
4) Ferrero Rocher - berbijik2 sampai tak habis makan.
5) Buah - buahan

apasal macam hantaran belah perempuan terlebih?

setelah aku amati semula rupa2 nya ada extra satu hantaran dari pihak aku that was a cake from makcik Maznah, kawan Abah :)

Gambar & Video Kenangan
aku memang takde budget langsung untuk part ni.aku just mintak tolong Team A (sahabat2 tunang) untuk ambikkan gambar and video sikit2.asal ada kenangan sudahla.and suddenly aku ada pulak videographer, Mother's office punya Photography and Videography Club from Disted Stamford College datang nak test power for their first assignment.macam hebat je tunang ada ramai photographer and videographer bagai padahal semua free.rezeki Allah bagi.hehe

antara personal favourites aku :)

apa lagi eh...

Kad Jemputan
aku sebenarnya merasakan kad jemputan ni tak perlu pun.tapi dah Mother request, aku layankan saja.aku download template border then edit pakai photoscape.simple je.then Mother print atas kertas yg tebal sikit dari A4.kecik je kad tu.syarat je.takmau la grand2,bukan anak dato' yg bertunang,I anak orang kebanyakan je hehe.

designed by yours truly

printouts besar ni je

Jamuan 
bab2 urusan makan minum ni aku serahkan bulat2 kepada parents aku sebab dah tentu la mereka yg menaja semuanya, so I tak interfere langsung lah. I don't even had the chance nak makan pun masa majlis tu. tapi dengar kata sedap, ramai tambah.kalau begitu, Alhamdulillah :)

I think kelemahan aku dalam membudgetkan aku punya majlis pertunangan ni adalah I spent too much on my attire, means baju and tudung. tudung beli harga beratus tapi tak pakai.

ELSE,semua aku happy dan puas hati. baju cantik, tudung cantik, mekap cantik, pelamin cantik, hantaran cantik, semua orang kenyang, gambar pun cantik. just the way I imagined it would be.
and yg penting orang2 yg aku sayang, dan orang2 yg sayang aku were there for me.Alhamdulillah.

A Heartfelt Gratitude

Alhamdulillah, The Engagement went well.

I would like to express my heartfelt gratitude to tulang belakang, Mama & Abah,
adik2 yg menjadi org kuat majlis Ahmad Afiq, Ahmad Azfar, Nurul Athirah.takkan jalan majlis kalau adik2 tak ada.

Kepada sepupu-sepupu dari Pangkor, Iwan dan Apit, thanks sebab banyak sangat tolong makchaq, pakchaq, kak Manja, abg Apiq, abg Apan and Athirah.
Kepada AyahChor, terima kasih banyak sudi jadi wakil pihak perempuan.

Kepada semua keluarga, 
Toklang and Toklang,
Tokda, Tokda Asmah, 
Tokchik, Tokchik Lah
Paklong, Maklong, Wafi, Haziq, Apit, Aamily,
Angahton and Pakngah Shukor,
Paklang, Kak Ita and Amni Nadia, Fatin,
Wakchek sekeluarga (tak dapat hadir but gave a hamper),
Cu Firdaus sekeluarga yg mendapat pelepasan untuk tidak hadir (cis.tak aci)
Nda Ngah, Tokchaq & keluarga,
Tok, MakNgah, Pakngah, Chik and Cu Pah mai dari Kepala Batas.
Mummy Azimah, Azue and suami,
Anak2 dan keluarga arwah TokNgah Shaari,

Kepada sahabat Abah, Ustaz Man yg dgn berbesar hati menghulurkan bantuan untuk masak dan isteri beliau Makcik Mah yg banyak bantu Mama dalam handle majlis,tolong set-up pelamin semua.
Kepada Cikgu Gee and Pakcik Mazlan dan kawan2 Abah yg lain yg banyak menolong di dapur masa penyediaan jamuan.

Special thanks to Raudzatul Adawiah, NurulAin Isa dan Suzi Iryanti Fadilah, yg meneman,menaja dan melaksanakan apa yg tak tercapai oleh aku sendiri. what would I do without you guys :')
Kepada fotoman2 Bulek, Pojie, Ejam, thank you amikkan gambar and melayan kami yg tak pandai berposing ni.
Kepada Team A (Ijam,Nde,Amani,Kemud,Haizum,Pojie,Jijah,Dudu,Eza,Bulek,Yana), Watib, Ct, Emmy, Zana dan suami, Apiz yg sudi hadir dari jauh dan dekat.

Thanks to Photography & Videography Team dari Disted-Stamford College (sorry that I kept you guys waiting for so long due to unforeseen circumstances.it was such a regret.kalau tak, mesti dah ada video outdoor.hehe)
Thanks kepada kawan2 Mama, Aunty Lata, Aunty Jaya, Aunty Jacinta, Aunty Marian for the hantaran gifts and the angpows.and also Uncle KT Tan for the video.
Kepada kawan2 adik yg sudi hadir.

Kepada tunang saya, Mohd Khairul Azman dan bakal keluarga.
Ma, Abah, 
Mama, Papa, Firas, Ukail, 
Maklong, Ayahlong, Aiman, Qistina,
Omat, Che Pah, Afif, Afkar,
Nanny and AtokDad,
Ibu, Abah and Kaklong,
AuntyLang, Uncle Kadir, Aqil & Aqra,
Uncle Boy, Aunty Finaz & Marissa,
Cik Nor, Pakcik Lan and keluarga,
dan juga keluarga2 yg lain yg sudi hadir.

Terima kasih jugak pada keluarga dan kawan2 yg tak tersebut di sini yg sudi hadir.
Harap maafkan sekiranya ada yg kurang sepanjang perjalanan majlis.

Doakan yg terbaik buat kami and jumpa lagi tahun depan :D

Marilah layan video di bawah sementara nak tapis gambar2.hehe

Merisik

I was pretty anxious for this merisik thing.
Sebabnya family aku macam very tertutup...emmm...mcm mana nak cakap eh...
senang ceritanya, family aku ni jarang ada orang luar datang bertandang, apatah lagi nak berbesan ke bermenantu ke, confirm la tak pernah.
yg selalu datang rumah pun saudara mara sepupu sepapat yg memang everytime mai Penang pun singgah rumah aku.tu je la.
so far yg pernah datang tido rumah, dan golek2 mcm dia pun family aku jugak, Ujie je la.sama la mcm aku kat rumah dia haha.

Dulu masa nak bawak Man balik Penang, kenal2 dengan family aku, mcm ni la anxiety aku.
Aku tak takut pasal diri aku nak adapt dengan family dia sebab aku tau diri aku mcm mana, jenis tak berapa kisah and tak banyak songeh.
Aku paling takut part Man nak adapt dengan family aku and vice versa.sebab family aku sangat2 close to each other,adik2 close dgn aku,aku close dgn parents. We talk, argue and eat a lot.haha.
Takut2 family aku kekok ada org lain tetiba dalam rumah and tetiba depa tak reti nak act macam mana ka, if you know what I mean lah kan.

I used to express this kebimbangan dekat Ujie and she said, "kalau aku boleh terima family hang,takkan la Man yg sayang hang and nak kawen dgn hang tak boleh?"
She always has the right thing to say :)

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back to the merisik part.
they came on the 31st Aug 2012, since it was a public holiday for Independence Day.
diorang datang 3 kereta.dah warning dah jangan mai ramai2,roboh rumah hamba.hehe.taklah,rumah aku apartment je.kecik,so kalau datang ramai2, kesian org2 tua tak selesa.lenguh kaki bukan boleh melunjur,cukup2 square feet je.
yg datang Man, Papa, Mama, Abah(grandpa), Ma(grandma), Ayahlong, Maklong and anak2,Aiman and Qistina.
belah aku dah standby, Tokda(granduncle) and Cu (uncle) and of course my parents and Apiq,my brother.Apan went out for a open house and Athirah was having her SPM trial.
itu pun dah crowded gila dah rumah tu.kasihan semua duduk sempit2 atas sofa tu.

aku taktau nak duduk mana,aku duduk je depan pintu bilik.kalau duduk dalam bilik macam kelakar sangat kekunun macam malu2 ada orang datang menengok.lagipun senang nak ulang alik dapur if ada apa2 yg kurang kat depan.

mula2 depa berkenalan dulu, ala mcm ice-breaking masa orientasi gitu.
pastu Tokda aku dok buat rasmi mcm mana entah siap tanya,"datang nak merisik yg mana satu?".HAHA.tak ke haru.aku pun sendiri tak pasti whether pihak lelaki aware ke tidak aku ada adik perempuan sorang.

then masa berbincang tu macam ada tense sedikit sebab tetiba Maklong mintak ubah tarikh tunang to 15th Sept.HAHA.Abah mcm nak bersetuju dah, mcm nak okay kan je akan tetapi, muka Mama dah berubah dah.
ye la, kawan dah pi menjemput sakan dah (keluarga terdekat) masa raya hari tu, siap bagi kad tu kau.kerlass kau Jah.

aku pun kecut perut dah.yela, dah la date ni kitorang yg syok2 tetapkan.dewan dah book.orang masak pun dah ada,kad dah distribute.bincang punya bincang, okaylah, proceed lah dgn 16th Sept.

bila semua dah okay, setuju belake dah, then cincin time! 
aku ingat, merisik ni, pihak lelaki passing je cincin kat pihak perempuan.
sekali kena panggil ke depan dah. okaylah, maybe Ma nak bagi kotak cincin kat aku kot.dah nak sarung2 cincin pulak. I was soooooo not ready for this. dengan muka tak semenggah, tudung aku pakai pun macam senget dah.haha lantak sana,sarung la cincin belah rotan di jariku.

then semua orang pun makan yeay.all the tension pun hilang just like that bila semua orang dapat makan.alhamdulillah semua kenyang makan siap tambah lagi.
lepas makan la baru lah semua pun borak2 kosong, takdela rasmi sangat macam sebelum2 ni.tunjuk gambar adik2 aku yg takde kat rumah, cerita pasal family, kerja and everything else.

pukul 6 dah kena hantar Papa,Mama,Ma,Abah naik flight balik KL. Ayahlong and family balik Aloq Setaq by car.lepas hantar diorang kat airport, kitorang pergi dating jap tepi laut kat Queensbay tu. maklumla dah 2minggu plus tak jumpa, aku menganggur kat rumah start dari before raya sampai lah 31st Aug tu.

then Maghrib balik, kemas dapur semua, lelap jap, pukul 11 gitu aku gerak balik KL dgn Man and also Tokda.

selesai lah proses merisik kami.alhamdulillah semua okay.
lepas aku balik ke KL semula, bermula lah proses preparation tunang. 
baju, hantaran, tudung, goodies and etc.

basically, the main reason Mother insisted for merisik sebab nanti bertunang kat dewan/kawasan selain rumah, and masa tu terlalu ramai orang so takut diorg sesama parents tak sempat berkenalan betul2.
lagipun, it's good to have merisik biar family lelaki tau mcm mana rumah kita, family kita secara ringkas.at least depa tau, nanti anak lelaki balik Penang, tido mana, makan macam mana. haa gitu.

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persiapan merisik family aku takde apa sangat.
Mother bought new sofas for raya and also new beds for us (katil2 lama dibawak ke rumah satu lagi yg akan dijadikan homestay)
rumah memang super duper kemas.memang lebih kemas daripada biasa.
yang penting, menu hidangan untuk tetamu and also the list of some official stuff to be discussed over the event (contoh : tarikh tunang, estimated nikah/reception date, jumlah dulang masa tunang and etc)
for pihak lelaki, cincin belah rotan and also cenderahati (a small hamper or a basket of fruits will do).
tu je la kot.for the bakal bride, pakai la baju elok sikit, baju kurung la paling selamat.then mekap la sikit.aku pakai eyeliner je,macam biasa aku duk pi office gitu.

so below are the photos (yg muka aku tak semenggah tu) masa merisik.nampak kelamkabut sikit, memang kelam kabut sbb tak expect ada acara sarung2 cincin.haha.then gambar aku gedik dengan cincin.bukan senang woo nak dapat, budget sana, survey sini, kira sana, timbang sini, akhirnya! haha.

ketibaan rombongan

bincang2 time : hok baju kotak2 tu serius sangat aih!

bincang2 time : catat jangan tak catat

sarung cincin time

makan time

gambar menggedik dengan cincin risik.di persisiran Queensbay

Getting to know where to start

honestly, I have no idea at all where to start.not even a bit.
since I am the eldest in my family, the eldest daughter, the eldest granddaughter and the eldest greatgranddaughter, I have limited resources that I can rely on in my family.
the last wedding for a daughter in my family was on 2005.that was ages.my granduncles and grandaunts are too old to remember every single details about the wedding
as for my parents, they were excited, excited but nervous because I'm the first one!
well both sides are, mine and his parents.
I think they were more nervous than I am hehe.

All I know are these four main steps :
1) Merisik
2) Meminang/Bertunang
3) Bernikah (Solemnization)
4) Kenduri (Wedding Reception)

What I wasn't aware off are those tiny and detail steps in between those four.and also the people we need to handle.sigh.

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the initial idea was to combine both merisik and bertunang in one event since my family is in Penang and his family is from KL and his grandparents live in Jengka,Pahang.it is a 4.5hours drive and I'm trying to make it easy for everybody.

But Mother refused...she wanted his family to come for merisik first then only bertunang later.
We discussed this over and Man agreed.he said, "Takpe, dah Mama nak macam tu, ikut je la yang, I usahakan la mcm2 mana pun". thanks for not complaining.ILY B :)

We wanted to settle the merisik thingy before Ramadhan but the dates picked clashed.
One weekend my mother was going to Bangkok for her college trip and another weekend Man's father was attending his company dinner.

I was down,literally.

discussion after discussion, since we were too late to set the merisik date before Ramadhan, we postponed it to after Raya, on National Day to be exact, two weeks before my Engagement date, that was last week. will provide the details later.

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regarding our Engagement date, I picked out the date randomly. Man doesn't want to be engaged for too long, since we are considering to tie the knot somewhere in mid 2013, I think September would be sufficient. His idea was to get engaged in Dec and get married by March or April.tunang sekejap je la kiranya.crazeyhhhhh, mana sempat woi.nak cari dewan,baju,goodies and not to mention all those official stuff, HIV test, kebenaran nikah, kursus kahwin and etc.

and so yeah, I picked out 16th September 2012 as our Engagement date, Hari Malaysia, a national public holiday, a long weekend and one day before my birthday.ngee.
EH! that is this Sunday :D
Merisik on Independence Day and Engagement on Malaysia's Day, patriotic much heh?

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roughly, the plan is to have my wedding somewhere mid April and his side would be in early May.
why April? 
firstly, because I have booked our honeymoon tickets to Phuket end of April.HAHA. So, kena la nikah before honeymoon, tak nikah mcm mana nak honeymoon ye tak? HAHA again.
secondly because my parents prefer the reception not to be held during school holidays.depa tak suka banyak sangat kenduri at one time nanti tak semua kawan depa tak boleh mai. lagi pun ada 2,3 orang je sepupu2 yg bersekolah. yg kecik2 duduk taska ramai la. and rasanya macam tak ada cikgu dalam family I.
third, Alhamdulillah, the dates we are considering, student USM tengah cuti semester, so dewan available.

actually, the hall is booked on 13th April for the reception to give way for Man's side the following week, and end of April they can set us free to go for our booked honeymoon ngehngehngeh.
but since Man's side is currently deciding 4th of May, I'm considering to delay my nikah and reception date for another week so that I can have a very loooooongggg leave after my majlis.given that the hall is available la.kalau tak,proceed with the original plan saje.
cuti dah sikit sebab dah masuk industry manufacturing, dengan forced shutdown leave lagi.le sigh.nasib baik la marriage leave 5 hari.

so the flow would be like:

Nikah - Shepha's Reception - Honeymoon - Man's Reception

and I would be pretty much sunburnt for his side's reception.HAHA lagi.

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itu lah serba sedikit review awal berkenaan tangga2 yg perlu kami daki untuk menuju hari bahagia.
awal2 lagi dah ada ujian2 kecil tapi Alhamdulillah, it has showed that how much Man wanted to settle down with me and he ain't complaining :)

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I thought it'd be proper for me to note down everything and anything regarding my small steps towards my wedding and towards a married life.
So, here it is.

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well let see, how should I start?

today marks 335 days from the first day we met.
I met him mid of October last year and we immediately started dating.
early of 2012, he asked me to marry him. 
well, not officially, no fancy or romantic proposal, just he wanted us to start saving so that we can get married, that was it.
I have met his parents earlier since they lived nearby.
so I took him to meet my parents when they came to KL during Chinese New Year holiday.
from there we started picking out dates and started planning.
and here we are, 3 days away from our Engagement day on the 16th of September 2012.
the date was random, really.
not to mention it is a long weekend and it's one day before my birthday.hehe